Susan Berger MFT, Psychotherapist, Marriage and Individuals Counseling

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I Just Found Out My Partner is Having an Affair!

Discovering an affair can be traumatic. Find out what most people experience during the aftermath. Helpful suggestions are included for dealing with intense emotions within yourself and towards your spouse. Read more...

What Happens to the Brain During an Affair?

Affairs in film and television series are often portrayed as exciting adventures, fun and mischievous; a way of breaking free from oppression… a conduit to a joyful existence. Read more...

What is an Emotional Affair?

Emotional affair? I thought affairs meant extramarital sex! He tells me they're just friends. Am I being too possessive? Can't I have friends of the opposite sex?Read more...

Why Can't I Get Over My Partner's Affair?

By "getting over" I don't mean forgetting about it, or somehow making it okay. But I am writing to you if you find yourself consumed by pain and anger and obsessive thoughts that feel unrelenting over a long period of time, and if you don't have a sense that these experiences are part of a healing process.Read more...

Why Do I Keep Obsessing Over the Affair?

Obsessing over the affair is an absolutely natural and normal response to the trauma you have experienced. Read more...

The Other Man/Woman...a Paradoxical Experience

What starts out as a honeymoon can become mired in hurt, anxiety and confusion. Learn why being the other woman can cause so much distress and what to do about it. Read more...

Can Relationships that Start as Affairs Succeed?

Are you wondering where your affair is going? Learn why it is so difficult to create a successful relationship from an affair as well as which affairs have the best chance of success. Read more...

Why "Being Good" Won't Heal Your Affair.

I don't know why she can't get over this. I ended the affair, have been spending much more time at home, doing more around the house, paying more attention to her, being more affectionate. Read more...

Children of Affairs

There is shocklingly little written about this group. Find out what Dr. Phil's guest had to say about her life experiences. Learn how being a child of an affair can effect your relationships with yourself and others. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part I

It may be surprising to learn that children of all ages are deeply effected by affairs. This article will help you understand and address what is going on with your child during an affair that is kept secret and in the aftermath of it's revelation. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part II

"Should We Tell Our Children?" This is such a painful decision. Every situation is different, yet there are guidelines that can help you consider the best course of action. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part III Infants and Toddlers

It's easy to assume that your youngest isn't effected at all. But from infancy, there is an exquisite sensitivity to the emotional atmosphere in the home. Learn about your infant/toddler's emotional needs and how to mitigate the possible negative effects of the emotional turmoil between you and your spouse. Read more...

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